We should say NO. Not always, of course, but we should say ‘no’ when our heart of hearts is telling us to say ‘no’. Some people find it difficult to blurt out the word ‘no’, one of the very first words we learnt in life, as if it were Voldemort’s name in Harry Potter, for various reasons: Some just want to help at all occasions. Some may have an ulterior motive. Some are just people-pleasers and feel very guilty to say the big word.
Although challenging, we have to do it for ourselves and others as well. Read the list of reasons why we should say NO.
Top 1 reason to say NO: To be free to say ‘yes’ for those you want to say ‘yes’
Life can’t be a breeze if you don’t know how to say ‘no’. Be kind to yourself. If you keep saying ‘yes’, you won’t have time or room for the ones you really want to say ‘yes’. You’ll always be preoccupied doing something you would rather not do or be with someone you’d rather not spend time with.
Top 2 reason to say NO: To give a more deserving person a chance to say ‘yes’
Sometimes, we think that by saying ‘yes’, we’re making everything in the world right.
Have you ever thought that maybe there’s someone else who’s more deserving and who’ll be happier to say ‘yes’?
Take for example: If you’re offered a job that you don’t like yet take it, you go to work unhappy and unfulfilled every day. However, if you had declined it, someone more suitable would’ve been able and ecstatic to take the job. Another good example is if there’s a guy who likes you and you don’t feel the same way about him. Once you say ‘no’, then he can stop pining for you, move on and be with someone who’ll appreciate him more.
Top 3 reason to say NO: To protect relationships
There will be times that because of your ‘can’t-say-no’ attitude, the people who occupy a special place in your heart may suffer. On a day that you’ve set a date with a friend, you may have to bail out because saying ‘no’ to your boss is an impossibility. On a week that your family is visiting from overseas, you may not have time for them because a friend has asked you out for dinner. If you keep saying ‘yes’ to someone or something even if you’ve already planned to spend time with friends or family, you put their feelings in jeopardy. Start saying ‘no’ or you might end up losing all the people who truly matter to you.Top 4 reason to say NO: To show confidence and self-worth
Saying ‘no’ shows that you’re not a push-over and you’re ready to face the consequences of your decision. It also indicates that you appreciate yourself, value your time, other plans you’ve previously set and the important people around you.
Top 5 reason to say NO: To make people know what you actually want
Similar to the ‘Boy who cried wolf’, it might come to a point where the people around you will doubt your ‘yes’.
If you’re now convinced that you need to learn how to say NO, you’re now ready to read 10 Guilt-Free Strategies for Saying No on Real Simple.com.
Say YES when you mean YES, and NO when you mean NO. Start working on your NO. It may be difficult for now, but when you can finally say ‘no’ without feeling guilty, you know you’ve just stepped into the dimension of liberation.
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