Top 5 regrets I don’t want to have

I’m near­ly in my for­ties. Ahem. I’m no longer that young, but not quite old. I’m a few years away from open­ing the doors of mid­dle-age­dom, but I’d rather not get the key to that one just yet. For now, allow me to label myself a not-young-any­more adult. As a not-young-any­more adult, intro­spec­tion has become a hob­by. Thanks to the long tram and train rides, I have come up with a list of regrets I don’t want to have when I’m a def­i­nite­ly-not-young-any­more-but-prob­a­bly-still-looks-young-thanks-to-my-Asian-her­itage (phew!) adult.

Top 1 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t trav­el enough.regrets I don't want to have

I’m start­ing to feel the num­bers in my age to weigh me down. I still enjoy walk­ing, but I’m start­ing to lose the spring in my legs. I don’t want to wake up one day regret­ting that I didn’t allow my feet to take me wher­ev­er. Trav­el­ling is an expen­sive hob­by to have, and I have mem­o­ries of regret­ting the costs asso­ci­at­ed with it. How­ev­er, the costs are eas­i­ly trumped by the fond mem­o­ries, the cul­tur­al immer­sion, the famous land­marks, the places that have earned the land­mark sta­tus in my heart, and the new and improved me at the end of every journey.

Top 2 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t pur­sue what I want­ed in life.

Pur­su­ing what I want in life means I need to fight myself from stay­ing with­in my com­fort zone. It, how­ev­er, is a dif­fi­cult bat­tle to win as I’m quite risk-averse. Although I’m hap­py, the ques­tion ‘What else do you want to do in life?’ looms over me — and I let it. It some­times cre­ates dis­con­tent, but it also adds excite­ment in my life.

Top 3 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t stay in touch with friends.regrets I don't want to have

Edna Buchanan was right when she said that friends are the fam­i­ly we choose for our­selves. Unfor­tu­nate­ly, we some­times have to part ways with our friends. We don’t let friend­ships get in the way of oppor­tu­ni­ties, but we also shouldn’t allow oppor­tu­ni­ties to get in the way of good rela­tion­ships we’ve estab­lished over the years. Wouldn’t it be fan­tas­tic to be able to have cof­fee with our school friends when we’re in our 70s?

Top 4 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t save enough.

The time will come when I can no longer work and when that time comes I want to be finan­cial­ly sta­ble. Becom­ing rich has nev­er been a dream, but remain­ing sta­ble is start­ing to become an obses­sion. I’d hate to see myself finan­cial­ly depen­dent on my fam­i­ly or friends, so I make sure my pig­gy gets a sig­nif­i­cant por­tion of my earn­ings. It con­flicts with the first top regret, I know, but it’s doable.

Top 5 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t eat and drink every­thing I wanted.regrets I don't want to have

As we age, our bod­ies start becom­ing fussy. Sud­den­ly, our super bod­ies will start telling us to lessen the inges­tion of sug­ar, salt, spices, alco­hol, fat­ty foods, fizzy drinks, cof­fee, etc. It’s inevitable, so I’ve got to start enjoy­ing them now (just before I go through some health checks). I’m not think­ing of stuff­ing my face with food and drinks every day until I hit 70. Of course, I’ll have to eat and drink every­thing in moderation.

I hate hav­ing what ifs, and I know it will be more frus­trat­ing to have them in my lat­er years. My solu­tion? Deal with these poten­tial regrets now, so they don’t become a reality.

You’ve read my list of regrets I don’t want to have when I reach my 70s. It’s now your turn. Do it on your next train or bus ride. Please share them with us.