I’m nearly in my forties. Ahem. I’m no longer that young, but not quite old. I’m a few years away from opening the doors of middle-agedom, but I’d rather not get the key to that one just yet. For now, allow me to label myself a not-young-anymore adult. As a not-young-anymore adult, introspection has become a hobby. Thanks to the long tram and train rides, I have come up with a list of regrets I don’t want to have when I’m a definitely-not-young-anymore-but-probably-still-looks-young-thanks-to-my-Asian-heritage (phew!) adult.
Top 1 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t travel enough.
I’m starting to feel the numbers in my age to weigh me down. I still enjoy walking, but I’m starting to lose the spring in my legs. I don’t want to wake up one day regretting that I didn’t allow my feet to take me wherever. Travelling is an expensive hobby to have, and I have memories of regretting the costs associated with it. However, the costs are easily trumped by the fond memories, the cultural immersion, the famous landmarks, the places that have earned the landmark status in my heart, and the new and improved me at the end of every journey.
Top 2 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t pursue what I wanted in life.
Pursuing what I want in life means I need to fight myself from staying within my comfort zone. It, however, is a difficult battle to win as I’m quite risk-averse. Although I’m happy, the question ‘What else do you want to do in life?’ looms over me — and I let it. It sometimes creates discontent, but it also adds excitement in my life.
Top 3 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t stay in touch with friends.
Edna Buchanan was right when she said that friends are the family we choose for ourselves. Unfortunately, we sometimes have to part ways with our friends. We don’t let friendships get in the way of opportunities, but we also shouldn’t allow opportunities to get in the way of good relationships we’ve established over the years. Wouldn’t it be fantastic to be able to have coffee with our school friends when we’re in our 70s?
Top 4 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t save enough.
The time will come when I can no longer work and when that time comes I want to be financially stable. Becoming rich has never been a dream, but remaining stable is starting to become an obsession. I’d hate to see myself financially dependent on my family or friends, so I make sure my piggy gets a significant portion of my earnings. It conflicts with the first top regret, I know, but it’s doable.
Top 5 regret I don’t want to have: I didn’t eat and drink everything I wanted.
As we age, our bodies start becoming fussy. Suddenly, our super bodies will start telling us to lessen the ingestion of sugar, salt, spices, alcohol, fatty foods, fizzy drinks, coffee, etc. It’s inevitable, so I’ve got to start enjoying them now (just before I go through some health checks). I’m not thinking of stuffing my face with food and drinks every day until I hit 70. Of course, I’ll have to eat and drink everything in moderation.
I hate having what ifs, and I know it will be more frustrating to have them in my later years. My solution? Deal with these potential regrets now, so they don’t become a reality.
You’ve read my list of regrets I don’t want to have when I reach my 70s. It’s now your turn. Do it on your next train or bus ride. Please share them with us.