Top 5 Small Talk Topics

small talkIt’s Mon­day again, and there’s a chance you’ll bump into your boss on your way to work, share a lift with him or her, or queue up to buy cof­fee along­side him or her. If you’re friends with your boss, it isn’t prob­lem. How­ev­er, if your rela­tion­ship with your boss is one that’s extreme­ly hier­ar­chi­cal, the thought of being with­in a metre from him or her is extreme­ly uncom­fort­able and daunt­ing. The key is to go to work loaded with small talk topics.

Small talk topic 1: Weekend activities

small talkAfter the usu­al pleas­antries, you can launch the ques­tion “How was your week­end?”. Make sure you have an answer to this your­self because if your boss isn’t in the mood to share about his or her week­end, then you’ll have to do most of the talk­ing. Remem­ber that the week­end activ­i­ties don’t need to be excit­ing or inter­est­ing. As long as you can remem­ber what you did and hope­ful­ly be able to cite a high­light, you should be okay.

Small talk topic 2: Weather

It’s great if you live in Mel­bourne as this is a fan­tas­tic talk­ing point in this city. Don’t wor­ry, though, as talk­ing about the weath­er is a sav­ing top­ic any­where in the world. Hot, cold, just right, cool, warm, change­able, freez­ing, windy, snow­ing, rain­ing, name it. You can talk about the cur­rent weath­er, the weath­er over the week­end and the effects on your life, or the weath­er forecast.

Small talk topic 3: Traffic
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In a city where the flow of traf­fic affects people’s lives, this can be a good top­ic for small talk. You can also talk about road­works, acci­dents, or track works as this can affect the increase in vehi­cles on the roads, too.

Small talk topic 4: Children

If you’re ready to share a bit of your life, you can talk about your chil­dren. This works extreme­ly well if your boss has a child as well. A bit of infor­ma­tion from your end can be used a spring­board to push your boss to talk about his or her kids. With a bit of encour­age­ment, all you’ll need to do is ask what, where, when, why, who and why in response to every bit of sto­ry, and you’re off the hook.

small talkSmall talk top­ic 5: Pets

If your boss has a pet, ask about it. You can steer the con­ver­sa­tion to this sub­ject by men­tion­ing about your pet, a friend’s pet or an imag­i­nary pet. If your boss is a pri­vate per­son and not every­one knows about his or her pet, don’t just men­tion it out of the blue as this might creep him or her out.

Take a deep breath. There’s only a 50% chance you’ll be in this awk­ward sit­u­a­tion with your boss, and if ever the oth­er 50% emerged vic­to­ri­ous, with these five small talk top­ics up your sleeve, you’ll be alright.

Top 5 ways to deal with your annoyance with a colleague

Have you ever had an annoy­ing co-work­er? I’m sure you have. How many times have you fought your­self from telling any­one about how you feel about him or her because you weren’t ready to make the annoy­ance ‘a thing’. If you’d like to keep it that way or you’re tired of being annoyed at this work­mate of yours, I hope my top 5 ways to deal with your annoy­ance with a col­league can help.

Oth­er online arti­cles share tips on how to han­dle an annoy­ing col­league; this post shares strate­gies on how to deal with your annoy­ance at a col­league. You may not be able to change an annoy­ing co-work­er, but you can cer­tain­ly change your dis­po­si­tion. Read the list and start free­ing your­self from this annoy­ing feeling.

Top 5 ways to deal with your annoy­ance with a colleague:

Top 1: Avoid your annoying workmate.

If you know he or she has lunch at a par­tic­u­lar time and sits in the same place, find a dif­fer­ent lunch spot or have lunch at a dif­fer­ent time. If he or she goes to the toi­let towards the end of morn­ing tea, go to the loo at the start of your break or go to a dif­fer­ent one. Remem­ber: out of sight, out of mind. Make an effort to avoid him or her, and it will seem as if he or she doesn’t even work at the same office.

Top 2: Don’t give your annoying colleague a code name.

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The moment you enter this realm, you’re doomed. Hav­ing a code name for the annoy­ing one encour­ages you to talk about him or her more often because you’ve already invest­ed your cre­ativ­i­ty. The secre­cy is height­ened by the cre­ation of a code name, sim­i­lar to how clas­si­fied inves­ti­ga­tions are giv­en unique case names. The name also brings in fun into the sit­u­a­tion you’re in, mak­ing con­ver­sa­tions about him or her even more enjoyable.

Top 3: Don’t talk about your annoying colleague to another colleague.deal with your annoyance with a colleague

The moment you tell some­one at work about how you feel about a par­tic­u­lar co-work­er, chances are you’ll find some­one else who shares your sen­ti­ments. Soon, there’ll be two of you fault-find­ing day in and day out. As I’m sure there is a basis for your annoy­ance, this num­ber will eas­i­ly mul­ti­ply with­in days. The more you talk about your neg­a­tive feel­ings with oth­er peo­ple, the more it gets real and the more it will con­sume you.

Top 4: Ignore your annoying colleague.

Igno­rance is, indeed, bliss. The less you know what this per­son does, the less annoyed you’ll be. Stop your­self from seek­ing updates from your col­leagues about the lat­est he or she’s done or not done because every tid­bit of infor­ma­tion you get is sim­i­lar to adding wood to fire. As you train your­self to ignore your annoy­ing work­mate, the embers will die.

Top 5: Just smile.

deal with your annoyance with a colleague

Your annoy­ing co-work­er can only get to you if you allow him or her to. Fight back by smil­ing. Think of things that make you smile. Think of hap­py places. Think of the best things in life. (I’ve got a list of sim­ple rea­sons to smile.) If you see him or her, sim­ply flash your bril­liant smile as if noth­ing is wrong in the world. If you don’t let him or her affect you, you’ve won the battle.

If you do all of these tips to deal with your annoy­ance at a col­league, you’ll most like­ly be able to free your­self from car­ry­ing this neg­a­tiv­i­ty. It’s not easy, but it’s doable.

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Top 5 reasons to say NO

5 reasons to say NO

We should say NO. Not always, of course, but we should say ‘no’ when our heart of hearts is telling us to say ‘no’. Some peo­ple find it dif­fi­cult to blurt out the word ‘no’, one of the very first words we learnt in life, as if it were Voldemort’s name in Har­ry Pot­ter, for var­i­ous rea­sons: Some just want to help at all occa­sions. Some may have an ulte­ri­or motive. Some are just peo­ple-pleasers and feel very guilty to say the big word.

Although chal­leng­ing, we have to do it for our­selves and oth­ers as well. Read the list of rea­sons why we should say NO.

Top 1 reason to say NO: To be free to say ‘yes’ for those you want to say ‘yes’

Life can’t be a breeze if you don’t know how to say ‘no’. Be kind to your­self. If you keep say­ing ‘yes’, you won’t have time or room for the ones you real­ly want to say ‘yes’. You’ll always be pre­oc­cu­pied doing some­thing you would rather not do or be with some­one you’d rather not spend time with.

Top 2 reason to say NO: To give a more deserving person a chance to say ‘yes’

Some­times, we think that by say­ing ‘yes’, we’re mak­ing every­thing in the world right.

Have you ever thought that maybe there’s some­one else who’s more deserv­ing and who’ll be hap­pi­er to say ‘yes’?

Take for exam­ple: If you’re offered a job that you don’t like yet take it, you go to work unhap­py and unful­filled every day. How­ev­er, if you had declined it, some­one more suit­able would’ve been able and ecsta­t­ic to take the job. Anoth­er good exam­ple is if there’s a guy who likes you and you don’t feel the same way about him. Once you say ‘no’, then he can stop pin­ing for you, move on and be with some­one who’ll appre­ci­ate him more.

Top 3 reason to say NO: To protect relationships

There will be times that because of your ‘can’t-say-no’ atti­tude, the peo­ple who occu­py a spe­cial place in your heart may suf­fer. On a day that you’ve set a date with a friend, you may have to bail out because say­ing ‘no’ to your boss is an impos­si­bil­i­ty. On a week that your fam­i­ly is vis­it­ing from over­seas, you may not have time for them because a friend has asked you out for din­ner. If you keep say­ing ‘yes’ to some­one or some­thing even if you’ve already planned to spend time with friends or fam­i­ly, you put their feel­ings in jeop­ardy. Start say­ing ‘no’ or you might end up los­ing all the peo­ple who tru­ly mat­ter to you.Top 4 rea­son to say NO: To show con­fi­dence and self-worth

Say­ing ‘no’ shows that you’re not a push-over and you’re ready to face the con­se­quences of your deci­sion. It also indi­cates that you appre­ci­ate your­self, val­ue your time, oth­er plans you’ve pre­vi­ous­ly set and the impor­tant peo­ple around you.

Top 5 reason to say NO: To make people know what you actually want

Sim­i­lar to the ‘Boy who cried wolf’, it might come to a point where the peo­ple around you will doubt your ‘yes’.

If you’re now con­vinced that you need to learn how to say NO, you’re now ready to read 10 Guilt-Free Strate­gies for Say­ing No on Real Simple.com.

Say YES when you mean YES, and NO when you mean NO. Start work­ing on your NO. It may be dif­fi­cult for now, but when you can final­ly say ‘no’ with­out feel­ing guilty, you know you’ve just stepped into the dimen­sion of liberation.

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