Top 5 unspoken etiquette rules

unspoken etiquette rulesThere are things peo­ple do that are rude and unrea­son­able. The prob­lem is, there are no laws, poli­cies or rules of eti­quette that pro­tect us from being sub­ject­ed to any of these. Here are the top 5 unspo­ken eti­quette rules every­one should know and respect.

unspoken etiquette rulesTop 1: When you get on the lift, face the door and keep it down.

It’s tempt­ing to car­ry on hap­pi­ly chat­ting with your friends on the lift, but doing so would be at the expense of oth­er peo­ple. When you get on a lift, stop talk­ing about some­thing exces­sive­ly fun­ny or if you need to con­tin­ue talk­ing (you real­ly don’t!), do so in real­ly hush tones. Not every­one may get the joke, let alone wants to hear one.

Top 2: Don’t use your mobile phone on public transport.

Peo­ple on a train, bus, fer­ry or tram are usu­al­ly busy play­ing, read­ing emails, mes­sag­ing or Face­book­ing on their phones or doing some­one pro­duc­tive. They don’t want to be drawn into anoth­er person’s phone con­ver­sa­tions, so it’s best to respect this. Some­times it’s inevitable to use your phone on pub­lic trans­port (sure!) but if you must, try to keep your con­ver­sa­tions short and less both­er­some. For more mobile phone eti­quette rules for com­muters, read this.

Top 3: Skip a step on the escalator.

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I see no signs that pro­mote this, but come on! No one wants to kiss anoth­er person’s arse or have their arse kissed by a com­plete stranger, so back off. If you, how­ev­er, find your­self too close for com­fort because some­one took a step back to respect the skip-a-step rule, you can either take a step back as well or just move to the side and walk up or down the esca­la­tor, depend­ing on its direction.

Top 4: Don’t smoke while walking.unspoken etiquette rules

One of my hat­est com­bi­na­tions is smok­ing and walk­ing. I’m not going to give a writ­ten lec­ture on how bad smok­ing is to one’s health. How­ev­er, keep your bad air to your­self. Walk­ing while smok­ing spreads the pol­lut­ing agents and affects the poor peo­ple around. If you’re in a rush, tough luck — plan your day bet­ter, so you don’t have to smoke and walk at the same time.

Top 5: Don’t sing-along to the song you’re listening to on your headphones.

unspoken etiquette rulesEven if you’re blessed with a fan­tas­tic voice, please don’t sing-along loud­ly to the song you’re lis­ten­ing to on your head­phones. First, we can’t hear the music. Sec­ond, you can’t hear your­self so it’s like­ly that you’re out of tune. There is a time and place for every­thing — if you must, sing when every­one can hear the music and not in pub­lic unless it’s karaoke or you were paid or asked to do so.

There may nev­er be rules or poli­cies draft­ed for my rants list­ed above, and I’m pret­ty sure there are more incon­sid­er­ate actions done by oth­er peo­ple due to igno­rance or plain rude­ness. I think if we just stopped to think and care more, many peo­ple like me will stop hop­ing that there would be laws to address the top 5 unspo­ken eti­quette rules.

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Top 5 reasons why having idle time isn’t always great

Many peo­ple talk and dream about tak­ing a Sab­bat­i­cal and imag­ine them­selves marooned on an island with noth­ing to do. That was prob­a­bly a bit over the top, but many peo­ple just wish they had noth­ing to do and they’re more than hap­py to do noth­ing for extend­ed peri­ods of time. Now, the idea on paper sounds great, but idle time in the wrong hands can be very destruc­tive. Below are five rea­sons why hav­ing idle time is not always ideal.

idle timeTop 1: Some peo­ple with idle time over­think things.

When you have a lot of time in your hands, it’s dif­fi­cult to take things at face val­ue. Why? Because you have time to think and rethink to the point of over­think­ing what just hap­pened or what was said. Let the words and the sit­u­a­tion go, my friend. If you have any con­cerns, instead of over­think­ing, get to the bot­tom of things by asking.

Top 2: Some peo­ple with idle time wor­ry excessively.

Over­think­ing and over­analysing are worry’s best bud­dies. Time spent on the for­mer will, lat­er on, be ded­i­cat­ed to wor­ry­ing. Idle minds, as they say, are the devil’s play­ground, so stop wor­ry­ing about every­thing. Wor­ry­ing is one of the most unpro­duc­tive activ­i­ties. Instead of wor­ry­ing, do something.

Top 3: Some peo­ple with idle time gos­sip a lot.

idle timeStop talk­ing about peo­ple neg­a­tive­ly. I under­stand that peo­ple in the lime­light are almost egging you on to talk about them, so I get it that peo­ple can’t stop gos­sip­ing about Trump or Brad Pitt. How­ev­er, if you have a beef with a friend or fam­i­ly mem­ber, polite­ly talk to that per­son. The prob­lem with gos­sip­ing is you invite anoth­er demon to feed more neg­a­tiv­i­ty into your thoughts.

Top 4: Some peo­ple with idle time com­pare them­selves with oth­er people.

When you gos­sip about oth­er peo­ple, you end up com­par­ing your­self to oth­ers. This harm­ful activ­i­ty will not result in any­thing good because your con­clu­sion might be that you’re bet­ter than them or they’re bet­ter than you. The point is there’s no point in doing this! Do some­thing more constructive!

Idle time in the wrong hands can be very destructive.

Top 5: Some peo­ple with idle time enjoy it too much that they become content.

I’m not sug­gest­ing you climb the Himalayas or go snor­kel­ing in the Pacif­ic Ocean — just do some­thing. Watch free TV, read, reflect, lis­ten to music and sing along, play games, go for a walk, jog or run, eat out, dance, write a card, binge-watch TV series, trav­el, gar­den, make friends, write your thoughts, clean and tidy up, pray, cook, bake, sew, see a movie, get into cal­lig­ra­phy, play an instru­ment, paint, plan your next trip, etc. There are a hun­dred things you’re bet­ter off doing than doing any of the top 4.

idle timeEnjoy your idle time as not every­one has this lux­u­ry. The goal is to find at least one or two things to do every day, so at the end of each day you feel more pos­i­tive about life and sleep with a smile on your face and in your heart.

Top 5 things to bring overseas if you’re emigrating

bring overseas if emigratingYou have at least a 30-kg bag­gage allowance, and although all your friends and fam­i­ly would like you to take some­thing that will remind you of your life in your home coun­try, you need to be prac­ti­cal and not take every­thing with you. The key thing to remem­ber is you may be emi­grat­ing, but this doesn’t mean you’ll nev­er come back. Plus, with tech­nol­o­gy as your best friend, there’s no rea­son why you can’t con­stant­ly be in touch with your friends and fam­i­ly. Here are the top 5 things to bring over­seas if you’re emigrating.

Top 1 thing to bring overseas if you’re emigrating: Identity documents plus evidence of qualifications, certificates and training

Aside from your pass­port which you will need at the air­port, make sure you have orig­i­nal copies of all your oth­er iden­ti­ty doc­u­ments, and evi­dence of qual­i­fi­ca­tions, cer­tifi­cates and tran­scripts, as well as tran­scripts. Scan all of them and keep them on your lap­top. Save these doc­u­ments as PDF files, not as JPEGs as the for­mer is eas­i­er to open from any computer.

Top 2 thing to bring overseas if you’re emigrating: Suitable clothes and shoes for every season

bring overseas if emigratingThe quan­ti­ty of cloth­ing isn’t all that’s rel­e­vant due to the chang­ing sea­sons. Make sure that you have the appro­pri­ate kinds of clothes that will help you sur­vive the cold win­ters and hot sum­mers. I packed some clothes, but they weren’t the right ones. Even when I wore lay­ers of clothes in win­ter, I still felt cold to the bone. If I had invest­ed in a good coat and ther­mals before mov­ing to Aus­tralia, I would not have suf­fered as much. It’s the same for shoes and acces­sories. I don’t care much for fash­ion, but feel­ing com­fort­able in every sea­son is some­thing I value.

Top 3 thing to bring overseas if you’re emigrating: Mobile phone and laptop

If you have a spare phone, take it with you so can use it for your Aussie SIM and you can still main­tain your Fil­ipino line for a month or so. Even­tu­al­ly, you’ll give up your Fil­ipino SIM and just use Skype or Face­time to con­tact your fam­i­ly. If you have a lap­top, bring it with you because many things are done online in Aus­tralia, for exam­ple, apply­ing for some jobs, keep­ing in touch with employ­ers, apply­ing for police checks, pay­ing for toll fees, trans­fer­ring mon­ey, pay­ing bills, etc. Just a gen­tle reminder: Don’t for­get the pow­er cable and charg­er of these gadgets.

Top 4 thing to bring overseas if you’re emigrating: Something that will help you get over homesickness

bring if you're emigratingYou can go through a chal­leng­ing first few months. Some peo­ple get home­sick as soon as their plane lands, oth­ers enjoy the new­ness of the expe­ri­ence before get­ting lone­ly, while oth­ers just man­age to plod on with­out extreme­ly miss­ing any­thing from their home­land. To play it safe, bring some­thing that might help you com­bat home­sick­ness. You can bring some pho­tos, some Fil­ipino music saved on your lap­top or phone, some ted­dies and if you fan­cy cook­ing, some Fil­ipino mix­es so you can cook sini­gang, pal­abok and caldereta.

Top 5 thing to bring overseas if you’re emigraing: Credit card and some cash

Make sure to bring a cred­it card that has a VISA or Mas­ter­card logo on it, just in case you run out of cash and you haven’t received your Aus­tralian deb­it or cred­it card. Please note: Bring only some cash. There is a max­i­mum lim­it of AUD$10,000 that you can bring into Aus­tralia. Oth­er­wise, you’ll have to declare it. More­over, I’m sure you’ll agree that it’s not safe to car­ry that much mon­ey in your trav­el­ing bags.

bring overseas if emigratingWhen I moved to Aus­tralia, I unfor­tu­nate­ly brought more than these top 5 things — I had a pil­low, bed­sheets and pil­low­cas­es, a saucepan and skil­let, cut­lery, two plates, a glass, heaps of cos­met­ics and toi­letries, books, etc. Don’t make the same mis­take. Pack wise­ly and enjoy the adventure!

Top 5 reasons why you should complain

I don’t com­plain when I’m in the wrong. I only com­plain when I know I’m in the right or if I feel anoth­er per­son was treat­ed badly.

ComplainI com­plain. I’m a squeaky wheel, and I usu­al­ly get the grease. I com­plain about the ser­vice I’m giv­en and what oth­ers are giv­en. I take some time out to write a respect­ful email to the com­pa­ny or even the CEO if there’s a need to esca­late the issue. I’ve com­plained to two air­lines, a cou­ple of med­ical prac­tices, a cof­fee shop and a drug­store. My suc­cess rate is quite high. I’ve received favourable results and perks on most occasions.

Top 1 reason why you should complain: You might get your way.

Complain

Get­ting your way is the best result you can ever get. Just recent­ly I com­plained about the inflex­i­bil­i­ty and unfair­ness of a famous trav­el agency. It was a strug­gle, and I didn’t think I’d win, but after a few exchanges of emails and copy­ing in the CEO, I final­ly got my way. Oooh! There’s noth­ing like win­ning a bat­tle against a giant company.

Top 2 reason why you should complain: You can help a company improve their service.Complain

Com­pa­nies need to get feed­back from cus­tomers to improve their ser­vice. Being tol­er­ant all the time doesn’t help the com­pa­ny at all. They need to know that they’ve done some­thing wrong and how it’s affect­ed you. Think of it this way — some­times, you need to tell peo­ple that you’re offend­ed by what they’ve done for them to apol­o­gise and make it up to you. If you keep mum about it, they’ll think everything’s okay. As they say, igno­rance is bliss.

Top 3 reason why you should complain: You can help other people.

When you com­plain, you may be com­plain­ing for the many hun­dreds of indi­vid­u­als who are in the same unfor­tu­nate sit­u­a­tion as you but haven’t done any­thing. Their lack of action may be because they’re too busy, too polite, too lazy or not as assertive as you. Con­se­quent­ly, your win is a win for many peo­ple as well.

Top 4 reason why you should complain: You can protect other people who might get hurt.

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Think of the future. If it’s hap­pened to you, there’s a huge chance it can hap­pen to some­one else in the future. Think of a para­sol that near­ly hit you because the cafe staff didn’t plant it secure­ly on the ground. If you say some­thing about it, the staff might find a way to fix the prob­lem. If you don’t say some­thing about it, some­one might get injured when the next gust of wind comes.

Top 5 reason why you should complain: You can get some perks.

complainTo be hon­est, I get sat­is­fac­tion from know­ing that some­one from a big com­pa­ny lis­tened to me and solved my prob­lem. If they throw in some perks, e.g. dis­counts, gift cards or some free­bies, who am I to complain?

Com­plain­ing should not be just seen as an act of inso­lence that’s done just to cause dis­rup­tion and has­sle cus­tomer ser­vice peo­ple. With the best inten­tions and if done with cour­tesy, a com­plaint can be trans­for­ma­tive — not only for the com­plainant but also for the com­pa­ny and cus­tomers as well. So, yes, it’s more than okay to complain.

Top 5 Confusing Filipino-English phrases

Confusing Filipino-English phrasesYou’ve moved to Aus­tralia and you’re thank­ful that Eng­lish is your sec­ond lan­guage or your oth­er first lan­guage. You, how­ev­er, have noticed that there are some words that, even if they’re in Eng­lish, aren’t under­stood by native Eng­lish speak­ers. (I used to say ‘open line’ until I found out that it’s not a term used in Aus­tralia. Ha!) Read the list of con­fus­ing Fil­ipino-Eng­lish phras­es that Aussies may not under­stand, so you’ll know what I’m talk­ing about.

Confusing Filipino-English phrasesTop 1 Confusing Filipino-English phrase: Comfort room, more specifically C.R.

In oth­er coun­tries, a com­fort room or C.R. is called pub­lic toi­let, restroom, bath­room, or wash­room. If you say ‘C.R.’, there’s a 1% chance Aussies will under­stand you. You have a bet­ter chance of get­ting direc­tions to the near­est toi­lets if you say ‘com­fort room’.

Top 2 Confusing Filipino-English phrase: Open the light or open the computer

Instead of ‘open’, say ‘turn on’ or ‘switch on’ the light or the com­put­er. I under­stand that the con­fu­sion stems from the trans­la­tion into Taga­log or Fil­ipino of ‘turn on’, ‘switch on’ and ‘open’ which is ‘bukas’. Because ‘open’ is a more com­mon word, it’s so easy for us Fil­ipinos to make the mis­take of say­ing ‘open’ even if we mean ‘turn on’ or ‘switch on’. If you say ‘open the light or com­put­er’, you’ll be under­stood any­where in the world, but it’s best to use the cor­rect verb phrase to be a bet­ter communicator.

Confusing Filipino-English phrasesTop 3 Confusing Filipino-English phrase: Open line

I remem­ber going to a mobile phone and acces­sories shop telling a sales assis­tant I’d like to get an ‘open line’ phone, so I can change telecom­mu­ni­ca­tions ser­vice providers and not wor­ry. I’ll nev­er for­get the look of con­fu­sion on the poor guy’s face. Thank­ful­ly, my friend man­aged to deci­pher the code and feed me the cor­rect ter­mi­nol­o­gy — unlocked phone. Haha! She said the guy prob­a­bly thought I want­ed help set­ting up a phone dat­ing account.

Top 4 Confusing Filipino-English phrase: Copy furnish

Copy fur­nish sounds so pro­fes­sion­al but archa­ic. Aussies will under­stand you, but you’ll be noticed in a way that peo­ple who come in with a portable CD play­er get noticed. Instead of say­ing ‘copy fur­nish me’, say ‘car­bon copy or CC me’ or ‘copy me in’.

Confusing Filipino-English phrasesTop 5 Confusing Filipino-English phrase: State of calamity

Accord­ing to The Lawyers Post, a State of Calami­ty is defined under Sec­tion 3 of RA 10121, known as the “Philip­pine Dis­as­ter Risk Reduc­tion and Man­age­ment Act of 2010,” as “a con­di­tion involv­ing mass casu­al­ty and/or major dam­ages to prop­er­ty, dis­rup­tion of means of liveli­hoods, roads and nor­mal way of life of peo­ple in the affect­ed areas as a result of the occur­rence of nat­ur­al or human-induced haz­ard.” Only Fil­ipinos use this term, so don’t be sur­prised if Aussies give you a ques­tion­ing look if this term slips out. The rest of the world refers to a state of a coun­try after being struck by a nat­ur­al or human-trig­gered dis­as­ter as a state of emer­gency, no mat­ter how extreme­ly calami­tous it is.

The longer you live in Aus­tralia or any coun­try with Eng­lish as its native lan­guage, the bet­ter you’ll be at pick­ing up real world Eng­lish, and this will help you avoid using Eng­lish terms that are only under­stood by Fil­ipinos. I hope this list of con­fus­ing Fil­ipino-Eng­lish phras­es will help you adapt quick­er in the Land Down Under. Oi! Oi!

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Top 5 Small Talk Topics

small talkIt’s Mon­day again, and there’s a chance you’ll bump into your boss on your way to work, share a lift with him or her, or queue up to buy cof­fee along­side him or her. If you’re friends with your boss, it isn’t prob­lem. How­ev­er, if your rela­tion­ship with your boss is one that’s extreme­ly hier­ar­chi­cal, the thought of being with­in a metre from him or her is extreme­ly uncom­fort­able and daunt­ing. The key is to go to work loaded with small talk topics.

Small talk topic 1: Weekend activities

small talkAfter the usu­al pleas­antries, you can launch the ques­tion “How was your week­end?”. Make sure you have an answer to this your­self because if your boss isn’t in the mood to share about his or her week­end, then you’ll have to do most of the talk­ing. Remem­ber that the week­end activ­i­ties don’t need to be excit­ing or inter­est­ing. As long as you can remem­ber what you did and hope­ful­ly be able to cite a high­light, you should be okay.

Small talk topic 2: Weather

It’s great if you live in Mel­bourne as this is a fan­tas­tic talk­ing point in this city. Don’t wor­ry, though, as talk­ing about the weath­er is a sav­ing top­ic any­where in the world. Hot, cold, just right, cool, warm, change­able, freez­ing, windy, snow­ing, rain­ing, name it. You can talk about the cur­rent weath­er, the weath­er over the week­end and the effects on your life, or the weath­er forecast.

Small talk topic 3: Traffic
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In a city where the flow of traf­fic affects people’s lives, this can be a good top­ic for small talk. You can also talk about road­works, acci­dents, or track works as this can affect the increase in vehi­cles on the roads, too.

Small talk topic 4: Children

If you’re ready to share a bit of your life, you can talk about your chil­dren. This works extreme­ly well if your boss has a child as well. A bit of infor­ma­tion from your end can be used a spring­board to push your boss to talk about his or her kids. With a bit of encour­age­ment, all you’ll need to do is ask what, where, when, why, who and why in response to every bit of sto­ry, and you’re off the hook.

small talkSmall talk top­ic 5: Pets

If your boss has a pet, ask about it. You can steer the con­ver­sa­tion to this sub­ject by men­tion­ing about your pet, a friend’s pet or an imag­i­nary pet. If your boss is a pri­vate per­son and not every­one knows about his or her pet, don’t just men­tion it out of the blue as this might creep him or her out.

Take a deep breath. There’s only a 50% chance you’ll be in this awk­ward sit­u­a­tion with your boss, and if ever the oth­er 50% emerged vic­to­ri­ous, with these five small talk top­ics up your sleeve, you’ll be alright.

Top 5 reasons why I LOVE Mondays

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For many peo­ple, Mon­day is a curse. After a long or short week­end, usu­al­ly the lat­ter, I under­stand why peo­ple find it dif­fi­cult to start their week. I, how­ev­er, have 5 rea­sons why I love Mondays. 🙂

Top 1 reason why I love Mondays: Mondays are best for catch-ups with colleagues.why I love Mondays

Did you do any­thing spe­cial at the week­end?” is a top-gross­ing ques­tion on Mon­days. Cof­fee breaks are pep­pered with con­ver­sa­tions of how much or how lit­tle they did on the week­end. Some even have pho­tos to show of their spec­tac­u­lar Sat­ur­day and Sunday.

Top 2 reason why I love Mondays: Mondays give you the opportunity to do the work you weren’t able to accomplish the week before.

Final­ly, you can now fin­ish what you want­ed to do last week. Feel­ing fresh after the break, you may even have a sur­plus of ener­gy to get the job done quicker.

why I love MondaysTop 3 reason why I love Mondays: Mondays give you a a fresh start.

The week before may not have been kind, but that’s all in the past, and Mon­days make that offi­cial. With the begin­ning of the week comes a reset but­ton and a fresh start for everything.

Top 4 reason why I love Mondays: Mondays allow you to fix something that was bugging you at the weekend.

Have you ever had a task that you remem­bered over the week­end and can’t do any­thing about? Mon­days allow you to rec­ti­fy that and final­ly put the nag­ging feel­ing to rest.

why I love MondaysTop 5 reason why I love Mondays: Mondays are perfect for meetings as everyone seems rejuvenated and productive.

Mon­day meet­ings are usu­al­ly the best as col­leagues seem to pos­sess a clear­er mind than most days. After a relax­ing week­end, peo­ple may have a dif­fer­ent per­spec­tive on con­tro­ver­sial issues as well.

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I’m just jok­ing — I don’t love Mon­days!  I hon­est­ly don’t. Today is Sun­day and the line “weekend’s near­ly over” keeps play­ing in my head. I kid you not.

Share this if you like Mon­days as much (or as lit­tle) as I do. Cheers!

Top 5 ways people handle money

ways people handle money

Peo­ple see and treat mon­ey dif­fer­ent­ly. Some see it as a trea­sure that they keep for the rest of their lives. Some use it to invest in some­thing, while oth­ers let it burn a hole in their pock­ets. Read about the top 5 ways peo­ple han­dle mon­ey. What would they do if they had a wind­fall of $300?

 Top 1: The Big Spendways people handle money

With a wind­fall of $300, some peo­ple would buy one item that is extreme­ly expen­sive. These peo­ple are drawn to the pop­u­lar and pricey brands, and noth­ing else will give them con­tent­ment. They might even be will­ing to shell out a bit more to foot the bill if $300 isn’t enough.

Top 2: The Collectionways people handle money

Some peo­ple would use up all the mon­ey but wouldn’t be con­tent with just one item. They are not immune to spend­ing every­thing on non-brand­ed items, as quan­ti­ty, not brand names, is what tru­ly mat­ters to them.

Top 3: The Practical

Some peo­ple are always in search of a good find. In their mind, expen­sive brands do not nec­es­sar­i­ly trans­late to qual­i­ty, so they would rather buy one item and keep the rest of the mon­ey for the next poten­tial good buy.

Top 4: The Goal Saverways people handle money

Some peo­ple wouldn’t get tempt­ed into buy­ing any­thing for the $300 as they wouldn’t feel the need to cel­e­brate the wind­fall. Every cent should be saved for some­thing they have already decid­ed to buy or invest­ed in some­thing impor­tant, such as a car or a house.

Top 5: The Forgetful Saverways people handle money

Some peo­ple would save the full amount of $300, sim­i­lar to every cent they’ve received, but wouldn’t remem­ber set­ting the mon­ey aside. They are like­ly to have bank accounts that are dor­mant and draw­ers with some tucked-away cash for some­thing they may have also for­got­ten about.

What would you do if by some stroke of luck you end­ed up with $300? Tell us how you would han­dle the money.

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Top 5 things to do on the train or bus

things to do on the train or busMany peo­ple want to live near their place of work because catch­ing the bus or train is deemed by most to be time-con­sum­ing and excru­ci­at­ing­ly dull. Catch­ing pub­lic trans­port doesn’t have to be painful; in fact, it can even be an excel­lent use of time. We all know we can lis­ten to some music or a pod­cast, watch a video or a replay of an episode of Game of Thrones, or play games, but what oth­er inter­est­ing things can we do on the train or bus?

Top 1 thing to do on the train or bus: Work or study

Many peo­ple avoid tak­ing home work or study­ing at home as they see their dwelling place as a sacred space. If a long train or bus ride is unavoid­able, use this time to get some work done. Read, plan for the fol­low­ing day or even fin­ish reports on the train.

Top 2 thing to do on the train or bus: People-watch

things to do on the train or busI think people’s lives are fas­ci­nat­ing, and with the risk of seem­ing strange, I admit that I love peo­ple-watch­ing. I watch peo­ple incon­spic­u­ous­ly, so I don’t freak them out. Among my favourites are the dynam­ics between an exas­per­at­ed moth­er and a mis­chie­vous child, some­one sleep­ing on the train whose head keeps slid­ing down and into the wait­ing shoul­ders of a train mate, and how peo­ple act in an over­ly crowd­ed space where move­ment is a luxury.

Top 3 thing to do on the train or bus: Introspection

We’re too absorbed in every­thing hap­pen­ing around us that intro­spec­tion can only be done when we’ve got extra time on our hands. Train rides have allowed me to think about myself and my life — the good, the bad and the unknown. It’s not rare to find me star­ing into space, some­times with tears that could be born from joy or sad­ness. Don’t judge! 🙂

thngs to do on the train or busTop 4 thing to do on the train or bus: Arts and Crafts

Some peo­ple put on make­up on the train or bus. Some keep them­selves enter­tained. Oth­ers do cre­ative stuff — they sew, knit or draw. It’s amaz­ing how much peo­ple can accom­plish and how relaxed they feel after their artis­tic ses­sion on the train.

Top 5 thing to do on the train or bus: Write ideas in your journal.

I come up with my list of top 5s on the train or a list of stuff I need to do or can do. I write poems, sto­ries and songs. I come up with solu­tions to prob­lems, and some­times dis­cov­er prob­lems, and with the 10-min walk imme­di­ate­ly fol­low­ing my train ride, I find a solu­tion to them as well.

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Find some­thing to do on the train or bus, and even your 1-hour trip will seem to go fast. Enjoy!

 

 

 

 

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Top 5 questions you should never ask

never ask questionsWe love small talk. It has saved us in very uncom­fort­able sit­u­a­tions. How­ev­er, if you ask the wrong ques­tions, they might be the bane of your exis­tence. Here are the top 5 ques­tions you should nev­er ask:

NEVER ASK ‘How old are you?’ Unless you’re gath­er­ing data for a cen­sus, this ques­tion should nev­er be asked. If you work for a licensed venue, it’s bet­ter to request for a proof of age card. If ask­ing a person’s age is just out of curios­i­ty, you can ask this ques­tion after 15 min­utes of con­tin­u­ous talk­ing giv­en that it’s relat­ed to the top­ic you’ve been talk­ing about and by start­ing it with ‘I hope you don’t mind’ or ‘Would you mind…”

NEVER ASK ‘Why don’t you have children?’never ask questions

In some cul­tures, mar­ried cou­ples are expect­ed to have chil­dren and are assumed to want to have them. What bystanders don’t take into con­sid­er­a­tion are the couple’s cir­cum­stances and choice. Ask­ing this ques­tion can be espe­cial­ly offen­sive if hav­ing a child has been chal­leng­ing and heart-wrenching.

NEVER ASK ‘Why aren’t you married?’

There’s noth­ing wrong with being sin­gle and being asked that ques­tion some­times insin­u­ates that it is. We make choic­es every day, and this includes our choice to remain sin­gle or be in a relationship.

NEVER ASK ‘Do you know _________?’

This ques­tion is one usu­al­ly asked in small talk. When you say you’ve stud­ied at a par­tic­u­lar uni­ver­si­ty or lived in a par­tic­u­lar sub­urb, some can’t help but ask if you know some­one who used to study at the same uni­ver­si­ty or live in the same sub­urb. It’s quite rare that you get a ‘yes’ to this question.

never ask questionsNEVER ASK ‘Did you have your ________ done?’  In some coun­tries it’s com­mon to have one’s nose, breasts or bot­tom done. It’s so com­mon that it’s not kept a secret. How­ev­er, if you haven’t estab­lished a good rela­tion­ship with this per­son you sus­pect to have had some face or body enhance­ment, keep the query to your­self. When that per­son becomes more com­fort­able with you, s/he might just share this juicy infor­ma­tion freely.

There are so many ques­tions that are so tempt­ing to ask. Be sen­si­tive or at least think twice, three times or ten times before ask­ing these ques­tions you should nev­er ask.