Top 5 unspoken etiquette rules

unspoken etiquette rulesThere are things peo­ple do that are rude and unrea­son­able. The prob­lem is, there are no laws, poli­cies or rules of eti­quette that pro­tect us from being sub­ject­ed to any of these. Here are the top 5 unspo­ken eti­quette rules every­one should know and respect.

unspoken etiquette rulesTop 1: When you get on the lift, face the door and keep it down.

It’s tempt­ing to car­ry on hap­pi­ly chat­ting with your friends on the lift, but doing so would be at the expense of oth­er peo­ple. When you get on a lift, stop talk­ing about some­thing exces­sive­ly fun­ny or if you need to con­tin­ue talk­ing (you real­ly don’t!), do so in real­ly hush tones. Not every­one may get the joke, let alone wants to hear one.

Top 2: Don’t use your mobile phone on public transport.

Peo­ple on a train, bus, fer­ry or tram are usu­al­ly busy play­ing, read­ing emails, mes­sag­ing or Face­book­ing on their phones or doing some­one pro­duc­tive. They don’t want to be drawn into anoth­er person’s phone con­ver­sa­tions, so it’s best to respect this. Some­times it’s inevitable to use your phone on pub­lic trans­port (sure!) but if you must, try to keep your con­ver­sa­tions short and less both­er­some. For more mobile phone eti­quette rules for com­muters, read this.

Top 3: Skip a step on the escalator.

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I see no signs that pro­mote this, but come on! No one wants to kiss anoth­er person’s arse or have their arse kissed by a com­plete stranger, so back off. If you, how­ev­er, find your­self too close for com­fort because some­one took a step back to respect the skip-a-step rule, you can either take a step back as well or just move to the side and walk up or down the esca­la­tor, depend­ing on its direction.

Top 4: Don’t smoke while walking.unspoken etiquette rules

One of my hat­est com­bi­na­tions is smok­ing and walk­ing. I’m not going to give a writ­ten lec­ture on how bad smok­ing is to one’s health. How­ev­er, keep your bad air to your­self. Walk­ing while smok­ing spreads the pol­lut­ing agents and affects the poor peo­ple around. If you’re in a rush, tough luck — plan your day bet­ter, so you don’t have to smoke and walk at the same time.

Top 5: Don’t sing-along to the song you’re listening to on your headphones.

unspoken etiquette rulesEven if you’re blessed with a fan­tas­tic voice, please don’t sing-along loud­ly to the song you’re lis­ten­ing to on your head­phones. First, we can’t hear the music. Sec­ond, you can’t hear your­self so it’s like­ly that you’re out of tune. There is a time and place for every­thing — if you must, sing when every­one can hear the music and not in pub­lic unless it’s karaoke or you were paid or asked to do so.

There may nev­er be rules or poli­cies draft­ed for my rants list­ed above, and I’m pret­ty sure there are more incon­sid­er­ate actions done by oth­er peo­ple due to igno­rance or plain rude­ness. I think if we just stopped to think and care more, many peo­ple like me will stop hop­ing that there would be laws to address the top 5 unspo­ken eti­quette rules.

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Top 5 reasons why having idle time isn’t always great

Many peo­ple talk and dream about tak­ing a Sab­bat­i­cal and imag­ine them­selves marooned on an island with noth­ing to do. That was prob­a­bly a bit over the top, but many peo­ple just wish they had noth­ing to do and they’re more than hap­py to do noth­ing for extend­ed peri­ods of time. Now, the idea on paper sounds great, but idle time in the wrong hands can be very destruc­tive. Below are five rea­sons why hav­ing idle time is not always ideal.

idle timeTop 1: Some peo­ple with idle time over­think things.

When you have a lot of time in your hands, it’s dif­fi­cult to take things at face val­ue. Why? Because you have time to think and rethink to the point of over­think­ing what just hap­pened or what was said. Let the words and the sit­u­a­tion go, my friend. If you have any con­cerns, instead of over­think­ing, get to the bot­tom of things by asking.

Top 2: Some peo­ple with idle time wor­ry excessively.

Over­think­ing and over­analysing are worry’s best bud­dies. Time spent on the for­mer will, lat­er on, be ded­i­cat­ed to wor­ry­ing. Idle minds, as they say, are the devil’s play­ground, so stop wor­ry­ing about every­thing. Wor­ry­ing is one of the most unpro­duc­tive activ­i­ties. Instead of wor­ry­ing, do something.

Top 3: Some peo­ple with idle time gos­sip a lot.

idle timeStop talk­ing about peo­ple neg­a­tive­ly. I under­stand that peo­ple in the lime­light are almost egging you on to talk about them, so I get it that peo­ple can’t stop gos­sip­ing about Trump or Brad Pitt. How­ev­er, if you have a beef with a friend or fam­i­ly mem­ber, polite­ly talk to that per­son. The prob­lem with gos­sip­ing is you invite anoth­er demon to feed more neg­a­tiv­i­ty into your thoughts.

Top 4: Some peo­ple with idle time com­pare them­selves with oth­er people.

When you gos­sip about oth­er peo­ple, you end up com­par­ing your­self to oth­ers. This harm­ful activ­i­ty will not result in any­thing good because your con­clu­sion might be that you’re bet­ter than them or they’re bet­ter than you. The point is there’s no point in doing this! Do some­thing more constructive!

Idle time in the wrong hands can be very destructive.

Top 5: Some peo­ple with idle time enjoy it too much that they become content.

I’m not sug­gest­ing you climb the Himalayas or go snor­kel­ing in the Pacif­ic Ocean — just do some­thing. Watch free TV, read, reflect, lis­ten to music and sing along, play games, go for a walk, jog or run, eat out, dance, write a card, binge-watch TV series, trav­el, gar­den, make friends, write your thoughts, clean and tidy up, pray, cook, bake, sew, see a movie, get into cal­lig­ra­phy, play an instru­ment, paint, plan your next trip, etc. There are a hun­dred things you’re bet­ter off doing than doing any of the top 4.

idle timeEnjoy your idle time as not every­one has this lux­u­ry. The goal is to find at least one or two things to do every day, so at the end of each day you feel more pos­i­tive about life and sleep with a smile on your face and in your heart.